The New Year is upon us again, inevitably as it must. Have you made resolutions, made pledges about a new you, a new life? In the spirit of this time of the year, just like Spring, when we feel a surge of hopefulness again, a sense that we have another chance to get things right, let me suggest three simple things for this year. No complex and endless lists of resolutions but three things we can all do.
Be yourself. Sometimes we lose who we are in the hurly burly of living. We find ourselves doing things we’re not sure about, acting in ways that don’t sit well with us, being with people we don’t have much in common with or don’t even like. So this year, step away from the noise and find the real you, the one at the centre of your being, the one you like. It may be a bit of a journey, but isn’t it time to know yourself, be yourself? We can’t expect others to like us, to be comfortable with us if we aren’t comfortable in our own skins.
I’ve blogged about this idea before, but a New Year is a good time to take a moment or two and think about who you are, all your lovely wonderful bits and your rough edges. How much do you want to change, do you need to change? But not for others, for yourself. At the end of the day, the person you have to live with most is you, make sure you are the best possible you you can be!!
Be happy. Sometimes we don’t know what happiness is until it’s gone. Hm, I’m sure that’s a good song line, or incredibly clichéd. But it’s true. Just as you need to know yourself, you need to know what makes you happy. Again, it’s in the little things, the small moments, in being and doing. So make a list of what makes you happy and actively embrace happiness as part of your life. See previous blogs on this and make sure you make this your year to be happy, especially if 2013 was a bitch, as I know it was for many people. Consider happiness your quest, your right: get out there and find it. Do the things you love doing and be with the people you love: that’s an easy step to happiness.
Be healthy. Well, yes, you need to be healthy, you need to be as well as you can be so you can get the best from life. So it probably means dieting, or cutting back on your drinking, giving up chocolate for a while, probably bread too. It surely means stopping the fags. Have a go at the VB6 (Vegan Before 6pm), the 5:2 (5 days normal eating, 2 days on 500 calories), Weight Watchers, etc, etc. You don’t have to be super skinny but you should be able to look in your mirror and smile more than you grimace. Don’t forget that too much alcohol and smoking ages (very bad for the skin) you as well as contributes to a host of horrible diseases, which get closer as we get older.
It definitely means being active. Don’t assume just because you’re skinny that you’re fit or healthy. Move your fat arse or skinny hips and get fit, keep moving, don’t seize up and end up reliant on drugs or a woefully undermanned health care system (no matter where you are in the world). Get thee to a gym, or a pool: get walking. Being fit and healthy will stem the tide against Diabetes, Cancer, Heart attacks, etc. Don’t die before you have to. Don’t be old and infirm before you have to. Get healthy and stay healthy. But, that doesn’t mean giving up the silken pleasures of chocolate or champagne or eggs and bacon. It means eat less, move more and be aware of your own health pressure points.
There you go, three simple steps to a better you. Not so hard really if you want a life that you enjoy for a long time. Being happy helps you live longer and better, as does being healthy, so find the you that makes you happy and you’ll live a long abundant life. Happy 2014, it WILL be a better year. xx (Pix courtesy Private Collection)